In Memory of




Obituary for Joseph T. Carey

Irondequoit: Joseph Thomas Carey was born 3/19/1940 in Scottsville, NY to Rose and Thomas Carey. Joe is survived by his wife of 39 years Lorraine Carey. His daughters, his M & Ms (though he much preferred peanut butter cups) Michele Norris and Melissa (Joseph) Kostrzebski. He was known as Papa to Robert Norris, Cole Kostrzebski and Jaxson Kostrzebski and we can’t forget his grand dogs, Dolce and Diesel Kostrzebski. He is survived also by countless nieces and nephews, friends and his two best friends who he considered brothers Bob Brown and Pete Colazzo. He is predeceased by his parents, brothers Raymond and Michael, sisters Maryanne and Frances his partner in crime.

Joe lived a full and loving life. Joe worked for the Regional Transit Service for almost 48 years. There he was a bus driver and served as the President of the union Local 282, which he loved. Joe had a ridiculously strong work ethic and after retirement he got a part time job at Home Depot just so he wouldn’t be bored in his seventies. He was a volunteer firefighter and served on the City Protectives. Joe had the biggest heart, the best and most soothing voice and loved to talk, we mean LOVED to talk. He could talk for hours with his friends (and anyone) about anything and everything. He never met a stranger, everyone he talked to became a friend no matter his or her age. He loved being in nature at his hunting cabin in Bristol and enjoyed hunting (really he just sat in a tree stand and watched the deers walk right by him). He especially loved a good day/night at the casino with his son-in-law Joe (little Joe as he affectionately called him).

The family always knew if Big Joe and Little Joe went to Bristol that they would end up at the casino after because that was always Big Joe’s goal. Big Joe and little Joe even attempted to get into casino a couple of weeks ago but big Joe forgot his license in typical fashion. When at the casino Big Joe would outlast little Joe because he was always up for a good time and never wanted the night to end and he always seemed to pick the right machine. He loved a good old western show, old movies and buying meals for his loved ones. His kindness, selflessness and generosity touched many lives. Our world has gotten a little dimmer but we know he is up in heaven with his family and his friends having a good laugh, playing cards and making new friends. In Frank Sinatra’s words: “And now the end is here. And so I face that final curtain. My friend I'll make it clear I'll state my case, of which I'm certain. I've lived a life that's full. I traveled each and every highway. And more, much more. I did it, I did it my way. “

Friends are welcome Thursday, September 22 from 4-7pm at the Dreier-Giltner Funeral Home 1717 Portland Ave. Joe's Funeral Mass will be celebrated Friday, September 23 10am at St. Kateri Parish at Christ the King Church. Entombment Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. Memorials may be made to Lollypop Farm or to American Diabetes Association in memory of Joseph.